You might want to think about that and decide how you want your relationship to look like. This is more about what you feel comfortable with than something that is objectively bad/good.
My grandmother cleaned both my sisters' houses a few years ago - one sister didn't talk to her for half a year while the other was thankful. This is about personal boundaries you have with that person above everything else in my opinion. You have a good heart (or something less condescending but true, so they aren't hurt.)" Then, if you want to, you can discuss. If you feel insulted and a bit violated, I'd go in the other direction: "It wasn't really that bad, was it? But Thanks, I appreciate your kindness. But again, thanks!!! It's so nice to come home to a clean house!) How do you feel about it? If you are insulted but don't feel violated, I would be heavy on the "thank you", with a side comment of, "It wasn't that bad, was it?" Then discuss honestly (feelings, not facts.) (My response after the thanks part would be how embarrassed I was, because keeping my house spic and span is low on my list of priorities. Two things are important to note, and telling: this person feels close enough to you to scrub your bathroom, and this person respects your privacy and boundaries enough to not touch your bedrooms. Or, the person doesn't care at all why your house is messy they have a compulsion to clean when they see something untidy.
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This person had some free time, and thought they were helping you. Or, one can assume - based on seeing the house before, or how you run the rest of your life - a messy house is just something that has gotten away from you.
In that case, the person is telling you in action that her values supersede yours. One can assume a house/flat/whatever is a mess because that's how one prefers it. Pretty much echoing what others have said: I'd be so grateful! But I'd also be embarrassed and feel a little bit violated.Īdulthood is complicated.
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